Love Marriage vs. Arranged Marriage

Relationship Guidance may be required in both types of marriages. But which one is better? Let’s find out. 

 

Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better?

Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in case of arrange marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose the partner for marriage. Let’s analyze which one of the two is better.

Advantage of  Love Marriage :-

·       Marriage is a life-long commitment. So, the decision to choose the life partner should be in one’s own hands.

·       Love is the base of any marriage. In love marriages, there will be no question on whether love happens or not.

·       Planned love lives results in happy families.

·       Generally, equality prevails in love marriages.

     Disadvantages of Love Marriage:-

    ·       The couple who go for love marriage is mostly independent. If they want to get out of the relationship, they do not consider relative opinions much.

   ·       Youngsters may confuse attraction with love.

   ·       Love marriages are still socially unacceptable in some parts of India. So,  it is quite risky for some people to go for love marriage.

  Advantages of Arranged Marriage:-

·       In Arranged marriages, parents do inquire about each other’s family and their circle. So, there is a high probability that one will get into a relationship with a similar kind of family as theirs. This prevents trusting people blindly, which happens in some love marriages.

·       The couple most likely thinks about both of their families. So, they will learn to adjust, which is a very good quality for any relationship.

·       According to research conducted by Dr. Robert Epstein, an American psychologist, love in love marriages tends to fade away with time, whereas love in arranged marriages grows with time.

 Disadvantages of arranged marriage:-

·       Arranged marriage is like a lottery. Love may or may not blossom between the couple. Some couples will face compatibility issues.

·       The couple does not know each other well if they spend less time together before marriage. If they have many differences to the extent that they cannot live together, marriage will break.

·       Too much submissiveness to elders may restrict couple from divorcing, even if they do not have love in between them anymore.

 Conclusion:-

Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it’s the couple which has to live together for lifetime. So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect marriage life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties.